What is the importance of a big dick? Does it really have a purpose?. We as women, expect to never be treated any differently based off our body, colour or appearance of our vulva, or any outwardly facing characteristics. Yet, we sit and ridicule men for the size of their member. Rating inadequacies and claiming "it's a preference". As women, we hold ourselves to a standard where we are beautiful in every manner, but we continue to use toxic phrases such as, "Big dick energy" and "Small dick energy". Where is the line between "preference" and being hypocritical on how we expect men to treat us and how we treat them? Are we ultimately damaging the esteems and wellness of young men today?
HYPOCRISY
"the practice of claiming to have higher standards or more noble beliefs than is the case"
Characteristics men cannot judge about a woman:
- Weight
- Boob size
- Bum size
- Vulva appearance
- Body hair
Characteristics women cannot judge about a man:
...
Insecurity of penis size has a great ordeal on men's mental health. This can lead to performance anxieties, feelings of worthlessness and humiliation. We've found ourselves, as people who don't have a penis, as having the right to dictate how a man should feel about his body. "You have small dick energy" "You have big dick energy" but what does that even mean? We find ourselves labelling desirable and un-desirable qualities of a man based off their member. However, if us women had to deal with a man saying you have "big boob energy" or "small boob energy", even worse "messy pussy energy" and "neat pussy energy" how would we feel? Oh, there would be an uproar, so what makes us believe we can start treating men how we don't want to treated?
Is it really hypocritical?
Hypocrisy, as shown above is the "practice of claiming to have higher standards or more noble beliefs than is the case". So, is a woman saying "big/small dick energy" hypocritical ? What actually makes it hypocritical? What we can see is that we are expecting more out of men than we are going to ever give. For some people, I believe this to spark a conversation on the patriarchy, but that discussion merely is not relevant when the oppressed start to become the oppressors. In this modern time we still date men, we still call men to do the majority of our handywork, we still have men balance our lives because of their positive traits. But such a society can't even condemn the thought of a man being equal to us anymore because of feminist anger. "I hate men" comments being thrown about, "we don't need men" and now "small/big dick energy". The feminine energy is taking control of the narrative but it's actually throwing us off balance.
Is it that big of a deal?
What does research behind this topic suggest about the struggles men face? A study found that 45% of men wanted a larger penis, although the other 55% are evidently happy, is it fair that we allow half of the male population to still not be content with their bodies? We find women have the social movement of body positivity, vulva positivity... but men are limited in how they speak out on such issues. It has also been made evident that psychosexual anxiety about penis size does transmit into a sexual dysfunction. With that being said, does this mean that our comments about penis size may actually be the contributor towards men's sexual problems? Brown's associative professor found that the effects of men with a perceived small penis or small penis' permeated many aspects of their lives. These type of impacts in previous studies have shown to cause decreased esteem, difficulty with job performance, relationship esteem, weight gain and other health issues. With issues as such not being confined to that of only straight men, but studies have also shown that gay men and their penis size is very much closely related to being a top or a bottom, creating feelings of self-esteem issues and dick envy. Although a mans esteem is not the responsibility of a woman, it is our responsibility to make sure we don't add to the problem.
The Verdict: Does dick size actually matter?
Many women have came out and said they prefer big dick, average dicks, it really is a preference. That is okay. But with that preference we shouldn't lower the esteems of the men in our lives for the sake of affirming what we like. I believe through my limited experience to have seen different shapes and lengths, with that being said, it's not the size but compatibility, connection and who wears it. Two people could have the same size penis but one really just isn't it. Playboy writer, Helen Donahue announced "big dicks fuckin' suck" and I have met many women who prefer a not traditionally "big dick" because you can do more in the bedroom. Whilst some women, prefer a larger penis. What am I really trying to say though? I'm trying to express that one size does not fit all and we need to stop pushing the same narrative. Our experiences in life will always differ, we won't like the same man, the same body type, the same personality and especially not the same dick. Fuck caring and just find someone who is fun to have sex with and wants to meet yours needs.
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